by Arden Leigh | Jan 5, 2017 | Uncategorized
There’s this idea – mostly among men but not exclusively – that if someone likes the work you share, they can just “be your friend” without doing the same work on themselves to be able to offer the same amount of value you do, and to have... by Arden Leigh | Dec 26, 2016 | Uncategorized
I’ve spent roughly the last decade being the poster child of liberated sexuality. I’ve been advocating for exploring non-normative ways of relating for about as long as I’ve been of legal drinking age, because I think the default box we get for our... by Arden Leigh | Dec 24, 2016 | Uncategorized
Here’s a question: Is consent a spectrum? Is there a scale between “fuck yes!” and knife-to-the-throat rape? How many shades does it contain? How do you know where your yes ends and your no begins? If you say yes to sex you don’t really want... by Arden Leigh | Dec 12, 2016 | Uncategorized
As some of you may have gleaned from my recent posts, I’ve been working recently on healing about a decade’s worth of repressed sexual assault and unwanted touch, things I’m not entirely ready to talk about because I had split them off from my... by Arden Leigh | Dec 10, 2016 | Uncategorized
Caution: weird post, very zoomed out. If you zoom too far in, you’ll miss the point. Lately it feels like I’m bearing a lot of the weight of the stories that have been told over the last several decades with the agenda of holding back women. As I’ve... by Arden Leigh | Dec 9, 2016 | Uncategorized
Ok latenight feelings time: you ready? I’ve been working lately with an amazing healer. I don’t know how she does it but she names buried trauma from my past, releases it energetically, and I feel better. I don’t need you to believe me when I say... by Arden Leigh | Dec 5, 2016 | Uncategorized
The willful ignorance of injustice rampant in a spiritual community that prides itself on personal enlightenment really bums me out. Racism, sexism, and homophobia are not vibrations you can choose or not choose to align yourself with – they are realities that... by Arden Leigh | Nov 28, 2016 | Uncategorized
Hi readers. I want to apologize for not updating this blog this year nearly as much as I have in the past. The reason is that, as I stated in my first post of 2016, I committed to a real grounds-up process of healing this year and I have definitely received what I... by Arden Leigh | Nov 27, 2016 | Uncategorized
So, I was inspired to see Dr. Strange because of this video about the film hiring a finger-tutting YouTuber to choreograph the hand gestures the actors use when casting spells. I thought, how cool – wonder if anyone has thought to combine finger-tutting with... by Arden Leigh | Nov 4, 2016 | Uncategorized
The thing about internalized misogyny is it sure kept a lot of things from hurting. I want to say I’m proud of having woken up to understanding feminist issues, to seeing rape culture everywhere it exists, to seeing events in my past that I had previously...
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