The Shadow Side of Alternative Sexuality

I’ve spent roughly the last decade being the poster child of liberated sexuality. I’ve been advocating for exploring non-normative ways of relating for about as long as I’ve been of legal drinking age, because I think the default box we get for our...

Captain’s Log, 12.24.16

Here’s a question: Is consent a spectrum? Is there a scale between “fuck yes!” and knife-to-the-throat rape? How many shades does it contain? How do you know where your yes ends and your no begins? If you say yes to sex you don’t really want...

Captain’s Log, 12.12.16

As some of you may have gleaned from my recent posts, I’ve been working recently on healing about a decade’s worth of repressed sexual assault and unwanted touch, things I’m not entirely ready to talk about because I had split them off from my...

Captain’s Log, 12.10.16

Caution: weird post, very zoomed out. If you zoom too far in, you’ll miss the point. Lately it feels like I’m bearing a lot of the weight of the stories that have been told over the last several decades with the agenda of holding back women. As I’ve...

Captain’s Log, 12.9.16

Ok latenight feelings time: you ready? I’ve been working lately with an amazing healer. I don’t know how she does it but she names buried trauma from my past, releases it energetically, and I feel better. I don’t need you to believe me when I say...

Captain’s Log, 12.5.16

The willful ignorance of injustice rampant in a spiritual community that prides itself on personal enlightenment really bums me out. Racism, sexism, and homophobia are not vibrations you can choose or not choose to align yourself with – they are realities that...