Coming Out As Not Polyamorous

On coming out as NOT POLY: I wrote a Facebook post last night on my desire to disassociate myself entirely from the poly orientation, then deleted (well, privatized) it this morning. I was writing from a place of anger and snark, and while there is room for anger and...

Captain’s Log, 3.12.16

It’s difficult loving someone like me, because if I choose to love you, I will love and see and accept you for everything you are. This means you had better love and see and accept you too. Other people will let you keep up a facade. You will be able to spend an...

Care, Support, and Who’s Showing Up

This new year’s I made a resolution to be more present with my friends. The intermittent reinforcement pattern of a previous relationship had turned me into a pigeon in a Skinner box on a variable interval schedule repeatedly pressing buttons in the hopes of...