Three Steps

If we’re honest – while the journey through alchemizing my trauma was vast, twisty, psychedelic, unpredictable, and exponentially expansive – I could, if pressed, truthfully sum up my healing process in three steps: 1. I recognized that I was doing a lot...

Conditional Support, Part 2

Just as there will be those who can only hold you in your hurt and not in your happiness, there will conversely be those who retreat into the shadows during your healing to avoid the radiation from the release of your lifetime’s worth of repressed anger and grief, and...

Conditional Support, Part 1

Many people will tell you they support you in your healing and transformation, and then they’ll bail on you when they see what it actually looks like. I’m not talking about not being there in the dark spaces holding your metaphorical hair back as you vomit and purge...

Narcissist Avoidance Academy

DID YOU WASTE YEARS OF YOUR LIFE IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP? Or did you get your hard-earned degree in Narcissist Avoidance? Yesterday one of my clients (who gave me permission to share this story) told me she was feeling sadness and regret at having wasted a year and a...

Being In Love Doesn’t Mean Enabling Harm

If you’re really in love with someone, you don’t enable their harmful behavior. If pursuing someone you’re in love with means in any way enabling their harm of you/others/themselves, that’s not love – it’s codependence. Truly being in capital-L Love means...

I Believe

I believe in the power of imagination. I believe in ritual. I believe in intentional language. I believe in creating the world you want to live in, even if it’s mostly for yourself. I believe that the way you craft your environment will dictate how people behave...

Momentum and Leaps of Faith

Are you looming on the edge of a big scary leap of faith into the unknown? Here’s something I wrote in an email to one of my clients today breaking down some of their reported experience. Being in the midst of eclipse season, I have a feeling that much of the...

The Overachiever Binary

I was on a call with a client this afternoon and she was seeking guidance for the next steps of her spiritual path. “I feel like I’m not doing enough, but maybe that’s just me being an overachiever.” I’ve noticed that...