Hey friends. I’m compiling a list intended to be informative, entertaining, and healing, and I would love your contributions.
It’s called Are You In The Midst Of Deep Spiritual Growth, Or Are You Just Being An Asshole?
During the course of my own deep trauma-healing journey the past two years, I experienced many incidents where I was no longer in alignment with my present circumstances, and when I ended up being distanced from many of my friends it was often difficult to tell if I was outgrowing people or just being selfish. So I started weighing my behaviors and sitting with where I was triggering people by growing vs where I was potentially wronging people in some way.
Here’s a few examples:
– If you’re suddenly unable to go out as often or make as many plans with friends… you’re probably having spiritual growth.
– But if you promise to go out and fail to cancel plans responsibly, multiple times, until your friends deem you completely unreliable… you’re probably being an asshole.
– If your friends come to you with issues about the way you’re handling things in ways that affect them and cause them hurt… then you’re probably being an asshole.
– But if your friends come to you with issues about the way you’re handling things that are none of their business and don’t affect them whatsoever… then you’re just having spiritual growth.
What others would you add here? I’d like to put together a long list of these!