Captain’s Log, 6.6.17

A few months back I decided to shift my focus from worrying about the journeys of other people I cared about to focusing on my own journey. To be clear, I was and am available to give my loved ones support when they ask. But I stopped investing in whether they...

Belief in God

When I decided a few years ago to embark on the journey of seeking spirituality and taking up magick for the purpose of achieving balance between my repressed intuitive feminine side and my overactive analytical masculine side, I had no idea it would lead me to an...

The People Who Love You

The people who love you don’t want you to set yourself on fire to keep them warm. They don’t want you to keep getting hurt. They want to see you take care of yourself, and they want you to help them take care of you by setting your personal boundaries. If...

The Things I Gave Up in the Name of Healing

If healing was easy, we’d all do it. I’ve often said “Everyone wants to be happy until they realize what being happy means giving up.” Our toxic beliefs are like teddy bears our inner children are holding onto, fairytales we adopted that maybe...

Don’t Call Me A Badass

Recently I’ve noticed myself recoiling when people describe me as “badass,” even though I know it’s meant to be a compliment. While I’m grateful to be thought of as bold and capable (which I think is supposed to be the root meaning of...

The Healing Process: Steps and Pitfalls

Our personal growth journeys are individual. The lessons you are called to learn, the wounds you are called to heal, will not look like everyone else’s. As a guide, I can only help you navigate the pathway, show you the obstacles that are holding you back, and...

Vlog – On Rapid Expansion

Here’s a video I made about how disorienting rapid personal growth can be even when it’s super positive and cool and everything you asked for. This is a pretty vulnerable share but I wanted to catch this moment of awkwardness because I get the feeling...

Captain’s Log, 5.4.17

Hey guys. Pretty much every woman I know or see online today is hurting. The AHCA, which just passed the House, would make being a survivor of sexual assault or domestic violence a pre-existing condition. That means a woman who’s dared to go to the hospital for...

Attachment Styles and Trauma Responses

Ok, so here’s the stuff I think about at 4am last night, apparently. There are 2 types of trauma response: hyperarousal (brain thinks trauma is happening at all times), and desensitization/depersonalization (brain shuts off feeling in order to cope). The typical...